This would be a quick blog.

I got these “thoughts” from the net, and I wanna share these “thoughts” to my readers as well. Okay kasi siyang reminder for us who are deeply in love …

We all know that people can either be givers or takers. The takers are looking for someone who can meet their needs while the givers give their love realistically (meaning no impossible beliefs). Takers can be compared to a huge vacuum that sucks the life out of their significant others. And obviously, this kind of relationship is futile and destined to fail.

When we approach our relationship with our significant other from a needy perspective, we inevitably expect too much, even the impossible, and these inevitably cause us to feel down and depressed when they are not met.

Remember that there is no perfect men or women, moreso, perfect relationships. There is no perfect person who can take care of all our needs (and even wants). On the other hand, we can find “helpmates” with whom we can share our troubles with, but not to expect them to solve all our troubles or rescue us all the time.

And in times of “romantic depression”, we ought to find a friend who can offer us insights in another perpective than that of ours. It’s no doubt that we will always be biased with our perceptions, and our mature & trusted friends CAN offer us other VALUABLE insights - insights that can help us “make” and not “break” our personality and maturity toward handling relationships. Remember that misery loves company, and if we seek advice from another miserable, wounded or lonely person, chances are we’re going to get some pretty immature biased counsel. So when we’re in disappointments for some reasons only ourselves know, we should be surrounded by friends who are TRUSTWORTHY and capable of showing us the “light” through the “darkness” (able to show us our blind spots), that is people who can tell us our mistakes and what we need to do (even if it contradicts our perceptions) right on our face - folks that will not “sugar-coat” the counsel/advice.

For me, love is a kind of attachment which cannot be broken, its a kind of language which cannot be defined, its a feeling which cannot be expressed, its a combination of two pure souls, its a mutual understanding of two people which does not need any physical support. Just as a cartel need a pair of wheel to make it run ,in the same way it needs the same kind of understanding to live a pleasant life. Its a hard time to recognize the love as true love can happen only once in life and probably in today’s scenario it’s very hard to find true love.